Help!


I need advice. I’m afraid it is of the non-knitting variety although there is a tenuous link to knitting. Last night I got a text message from one of the girls from my knitting group, inviting me to an exhibition with another girl from the group. I was really pleased - not just because I like going to exhibitions but because the girls seem like really nice people and I’d like to get to know them. Anyway, I texted back saying I’d love to go and asking where and when. However, this morning when I got on the train to work I realised that I’d left my mobile at home. I had no way of contacting the girls and I didn’t know where or when I was supposed to be meeting them. I’ve been sitting at work all day worrying about what they would be thinking about me and imagining them waiting somewhere in the cold for me. I rushed home and found my phone… 2 text messages. One with directions and one saying that they were waiting for me. I felt terrible. I called them straight away and explained but I still feel like a complete worm. The worst thing is that when I checked the text with the directions had come last night, so if I’d checked then I would have been able to find them even though I forgot my phone.

I just don’t know what to do now. It just looks so rude and I feel so embarrassed about it. My husband says that I just have to hope that they will think the best of me but I was hoping that maybe one of you could come up with a better suggestion of how I could make it up to them or somehow prove that I’m not a really rude person. Please? I’ve got until next Wednesday to think of something!

Anyway, I’m at home alone feeling miserable but at least I’ve finished the first Endpaper Mitt! I’ll post photos when I’ve finished the pair. The photo at the top was taken on our honeymoon in Scotland. It has nothing to do with this post really but I can’t look at it without feeling true
‘Pollyanna’ gladness about my life. So I thought I’d share it’s cheeriness.

20 comments:

Alice said...

I haven't met you, but I am absolutely sure these people will easily see that you are an honest and genuinely good person and that it could not be helped. I'm certain that they won't think it was just an excuse. You seem to think they are nice people - surely people like that won't be quick to make an unfair judgement against you.

It must have been horrid, knowing they were waiting and that there was nothing you could do, but I don't think you need to do any more than apologise and explain (perhaps get them a drink when you next meet up!). If that's not good enough for them, I wouldn't bother!

It's so simple when it's someone else's problem. Hehehe!

(Please don't worry about it. There is nothing to worry about!)

keri said...

Hey Kendra, I wouldn't worry about it - seriously. (And this is coming from someone who would worry about it, majorly!) =) I understand how you would be concerned that they would think you just ditched them, but if it's meant to be they will think the best of you. I also like the idea Alice had of buying them drinks the next time you go out. That always helps =)

nat said...

I doubt they will hold it against you if you tell them the truth and then laugh about it a bit.

I love the rainbow picture, it's beautiful. :)

Artis-Anne said...

Kendra I agree with Alice & know from just reading your posts that you are honest and sincere and if these people are as nice as you say then they will understand and believe you.
Saying that I do understand as, I was born a 'worry wort' and am always thinking that I am letting down the folks I care about by not being able to do all I would like to. Age and time have helped in some ways to overcome these feelings (okay Methusala !! )but not wholly, guess its part of what I am .
Maybe at the next meeting you could take along a small gift of choccies / bicuits as way of an apology : although not necessary :), it might lessen your guilt feelings a bit. With more time you will get to know these people better and make light of it and hey we all forget things sometimes don't we but it doesn't make us a bad person ?
Love the picture and re Pollyanna , just to show my age I got the origianl film version with Haylee(s) Mills in to my two neices who loved it (as I did ) but hadn't realized it was filmed in colour ; so I have now seen it again in a new light :)

José said...

If they are genuine people then they will understand, becuase we've all been there and we have to accept that other people make mistake too :)

Maggie said...

I'd send the girls a permalink to this entry Kendra. You've explained your feelings about missing your date so eloquently. Don't worry, I'm certain if they are as nice as you say, they already understand.

What a beautiful photo!! You must have had such a wonderful honeymoon. Scotland!!

bekka said...

i'm sure they'll understand. maybe you can invite them to lunch or tea next week, then they'll realize how wonderful you are.

Kendra said...

Thanks for the good advice, You are all so right. They are nice people so I shouldn't really worry that they will think the worst rather than the best of me. Thanks again for the advice. I do tend to worry too much about these things!

Sarah said...

Sounds like just the sort of thing I would do and how I would worry about it afterwards. Like everyone said they will understand.

If you wanted to go the extra mile I like the idea of inviting them somewhere though, shows your good intentions.

knitseashore said...

I've just read this but I agree with Alice and the others. If these women are from your knitting group, and you've been there somewhat regularly, I'm sure they already know that you are a kind and caring person and there was nothing you could do about the situation. It's happened to all of us at one time or another, and if they remember when it's happened to them, I'm sure they'll brush it off. If you are meeting them for knitting next Wed., perhaps you could take along a dessert and say something very lightly like, "I just wanted to thank you both again for understanding about last week" and leave it at that.

Anushka said...

Just be honest with the situation and bake a batch of biscuits for your next meeting.

Brahdelt said...

Kendra, you called them and explained the situation, I'm sure they wouldn't make any bad assupmtions about you. We all make mistakes, leave phones at home and are late for our meetings, and all of this can be forgiven. Don't worry! ^^

acrylik said...

Everyone has left such great advice. I would fret myself silly about this sort of situation too, it's only natural. You called them and explained the situation and I'm sure they will understand it's just one of those things that happens to us all. I'm sure next Wednesday's meeting will put your mind at ease.

dreamcatcher said...

Great advice here already, I'm sure they will be absolutely fine about it :-) Life happens and it was just one of those things. You called them as soon as you could too. I bet cake would go down very well at the next meet :-)

sue said...

True friends accept honest mistakes, so if they are upset by your explanation, well I am sure you can figure out the rest. I am sure though that the girls are not like that and would feel sorry that you missed out too.

Frankie said...

Doesn't that sort of thing happen to everyone? Don't worry Kendra, it's just one of those things. If they are likeable women I'm sure that will be their perspective too.

KeanaLee said...

Take them some homemade cookies or pastries to show how sorry you are, ask for forgivness.
"It's easier to beg for forgivness later than to ask for permission now"----not that that has anything to do with this situation but that is what my principal told me one time-he was a good man. They will forgive you.

Badger said...

What everyone else has said!

Try not to stress about it, these things do happen and evryone knows that and accepts it as part and parcel of life :)

emmms said...

Kendra, please don't worry. I'm sure if they completely understood once you explained the situation to them later. And if you see them this week, you can reiterate how sorry you are and maybe suggest you do something else another time.

But no stressing, yes?

Brahdelt said...

Kendra, stop worrying, I'm tagging you with a meme: list 5 books that played an important role in your childhood and explain why. Then tag 5 people to do this. *^v^*